Hopeless romantic you’re not in Kansas anymore.
Your list for “the love of your life” is missing the most important thing
Their cuteness & chemistry wont matter if you get it wrong here
Most of us have a list of things we want in a spouse.
Things we look for when dating or keeping our eyes open for prospects.
What we use as a metric to decide on getting romantically involved with someone. Their looks, personality, sense of humour, their financial status/career etc
But there’s something most of miss.
Accountability.
Accountability isn’t high enough on the list of requirements when most choose a spouse.
Lust, desperation, fear of starting over, sunken cost, or the Halo effect often eclipse red flags.
“Nobody’s perfect” while true can sometimes be the fear of being alone or not finding someone else if we end the current relationship.
But think about it.
How many fights occur because one person refuses to take responsibility be accountable for their actions/inactions ?
Which leads to resentment and a spouse feeling they are the only one making compromises.
She may be beautiful. He may be charming.
But
How willing & quickly are they to admit being wrong & mistaken, then take action to rectify an offence.
Not because they got called out but because they recognise that it’s something they need to account for?
Or do they double down, deny, deflect, downplay it, gaslight? Use food, money, gifts, sex to distract as an apology, till they do it again.
Rinse, repeat.
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